| The experience of delightful sense of togetherness is | | | | *** Understanding your mate's needs, requires a |
| one of the many reasons of why people marry. It | | | | certain sensitivity to his or her needs. Showing lots of |
| takes two to tango to get married but it takes one to | | | | love and kindness through simple thing like saying "I |
| change it., a marriage counselor once said. | | | | love you". It should be mutual. Each one needs to be |
| Psychologists say that the roots of marital | | | | showered with constant affection and thoughtfulness. |
| disenchantment are usually express shortly after | | | | Lest to forget, that communication is vital to any |
| marriage. When reality sets in over fantasy; where | | | | relationship. We should learn to communicate our |
| adjustment period reveals others' imperfections; | | | | feelings to our mates by sharing each other thoughts |
| shortcomings suddenly take an ominous dimension; one | | | | and love. |
| union reverts to two identities as the fantasy of | | | | *** A Couple needs time to have fun, say by going to |
| romantic oneness begins to fade; requests become | | | | the beach or a simple strolling in the park, shopping mall |
| demand and rudeness replaces romance. These are | | | | or things they enjoy most, help the couple to rekindle |
| the basic realities of marriage at its worst we need to | | | | the romance back to their otherwise stale marriage. It |
| face. | | | | help them bond emotionally and revitalize the couple's |
| Notwithstanding, that what marriage hurts most is | | | | relationship overnight. |
| unresolved anger. The greatest killer of love and | | | | *** A wife sometimes needs a pat on the shoulders, a |
| marriage is anger that is stored in the heart. Anger is a | | | | hug or a kiss is which is a meaningful and romantic |
| continuous build up of little embers of frustrations, hurts | | | | way to communicate your love. A token of |
| and fears. If we don't resolve them, they simply kill the | | | | appreciation to his or her thoughtfulness. Even a smile, |
| love that was once there. Anger can do a lot of | | | | a nod of affirmation helps to make a wife feels |
| change in the heart and at worst, love can fail. Then | | | | appreciated and loved. |
| divorce, separation and disintegration is inevitable. | | | | *** Differences as strengths, no two human beings are |
| However, there is always hope to hopelessness. You | | | | exactly the same, physically we may appear similar in |
| alone can make or unmake your marriage. You alone | | | | many ways but emotionally many differences lie |
| can put back the romance that was once there. But | | | | hidden within. We would always look the bright side of |
| how? Herewith, are some helpful tips to wit: | | | | your mate, that your mates differences as strength |
| *** You need to face the reality that you married a | | | | rather than a liability. |
| human being and not an angel, with all the faults and | | | | *** Nurture the relationship, good relationship don't just |
| imperfections that comes with it. Self direction helps, by | | | | happened, they are cultivated. The good ones are |
| rather demanding that your mate change for you, why | | | | sustained by good works. To bear the fruit of a happy |
| not ask your mate what he or she would like you to | | | | marriage, requires a personal investment of time, |
| change. It's never easy to admit to personal faults and | | | | interest and diligence. After all, success of marital union |
| shortcomings but when ask for them to be pointed out | | | | is a mutual undertaking by couple who put their time |
| and take concrete steps to change them, the situation | | | | and effort to make it works. |
| improves to both partners. | | | | |
