| What sparked this article was watching the movie | | | | After a career and social groups that brought me in |
| trailer for, 'It's Complicated.' | | | | contact with literally tens of thousands of people all |
| Nancy Meyers' latest film is set in my magical former | | | | over the U.S., in all socio-economic and age ranges--I |
| hometown of Santa Barbara and is about an 'Over-40' | | | | can say with assurance that what attracts people is |
| woman pursued by two men. I'm also 'Over 40' and | | | | radiance. Not the phony put-on variety, but the kind that |
| most recently dated: | | | | comes from 'Wow, I'm here, you're here, we're alive, |
| -An Olympic winner of 18 Gold, Silver and Bronze | | | | there's all kinds of opportunities inherent in any situation. |
| medals that I met waiting in line at Peet's Coffee. He | | | | Isn't it terrific!' |
| asked me to marry him on our third date. | | | | Healthy men are attracted to women who have |
| -While out on a beach walk I met an Oscar nominated | | | | values, standards, dreams, interests and |
| cinematographer, he showed me his home, film albums | | | | accomplishments. Women who take care of |
| and awards and we had a number of pleasant meals | | | | themselves because a fit, healthy, radiant look signals |
| together. | | | | self-esteem. |
| -When lost in an unfamiliar area, I asked a man for | | | | Life is either continual growth or stagnation. Dusty, |
| directions. He turned out to be a former Cal football | | | | disorganized, overstuffed and overdone is not |
| star with a world-class garden. We dated for a time. | | | | appealing and is the opposite of radiance. Everything |
| -While waiting for the Bart Train I chatted with a world | | | | needs to be freshened. HGTV is popular because it |
| traveler and discovered he was a chef at a 5-Star | | | | takes the stagnant and gives it a 'clean' organized, |
| restaurant. He cooked and served me the most | | | | appealing new look. When surroundings are |
| incredible dinner on a rooftop that he'd decorated with | | | | refreshed--life and outlook are fresher and more |
| twinkle lights and dozens of votive candles. | | | | radiant, too. |
| -At a crowded frozen-yogurt place I invited a man | | | | Consuming mostly organic fruits and vegetables, and |
| who was waiting for a free table to sit with me. He | | | | eating green to be healthy and lean, plus getting plenty |
| was a local professional and we dated. | | | | of outdoor exercise adds up to a naturally radiant look. |
| Of the above, I kissed two--on the cheek. All very nice | | | | And simple, well-cut clothes are youthful. |
| men for some other lucky lady. | | | | A fit body is defined, which is very magnetic. For |
| While I'm 'Over 40' have been married twice, engaged | | | | example, Oprah is 50+ and neither 'model perfect' in |
| a third time, and not looking for a man--I turn down | | | | looks, nor does she have a slender frame. But she is |
| dates, when I know younger women who are | | | | one fit, healthy, defined and radiant looking |
| financially set homeowners, desperate to get married, | | | | lady--because using energy to make the most of what |
| and who haven't been asked out in years. Here's why: | | | | we have builds radiance. |
| 1) Available Nice Men Are Out Doing Things! | | | | 3) Being Aware, Affirmative and Grateful Gets You |
| The women who sit at home watching 'Dancing With | | | | What You Want: |
| The Stars' with single girlfriends and complain about the | | | | The past is over. Learn its lessons, consider how you |
| 'shortage' of men are missing the obvious: There are | | | | got to today, and become aware that each choice |
| 6.6 billion people on the planet. Half are male. | | | | going forward is building your tomorrows. What do you |
| It's easy to meet men. Just match hobbies and | | | | need to be happy in the here and now? What's on |
| interests with where people congregate, like groups. | | | | your 'Bucket List'? What do you want your legacy to |
| Interesting men are in cooking classes and out | | | | be? What kind of spirit do you wish to develop for |
| shopping at Trader Joes, Whole Foods, and Farmer's | | | | eternity? |
| Markets. They are taking sailing lessons and out hiking | | | | Be aware of and pay attention to who, what and |
| on trails, by lakes, on beaches, and walking their dogs in | | | | where makes you happy. Jettison non-affirmative |
| parks. They are in investment, Ballroom dancing or | | | | people and situations. Be grateful for and affirmative of |
| Salsa classes, or in jogging clubs. On Saturday | | | | everything you love and want. Gratitude and |
| afternoons they are out running 10Ks, or going to dog | | | | affirmation makes things both increase and materialize. |
| or horse shows, or fundraisers, or wine tasting events. | | | | So maintain affirmative focus on what is desired. |
| On weeknights they are in music appreciation groups, | | | | The kind of nice guys that Steve Martin symbolized in |
| film clubs, or taking writing, photography, or watercolor | | | | 'It's Complicated' are out there, looking for you. Make a |
| classes. Pick your genuine interest areas, remember | | | | plan of action and also remember that to the degree |
| that action is a magic wand, and get out there to meet | | | | you become more radiant and affirmative-you'll attract |
| plenty of people--including men! | | | | them to you. |
| 2) Everyone Is Attracted to Authentic Radiance: | | | | |
