| Introduction | | | | reason why backing off and being cool about the |
| Are you in the position where you have had a | | | | breakup works better than chasing your ex boyfriend |
| relationship breakdown but really would like to get your | | | | and begging him to come back. The most important is |
| boyfriend back? Are you feeling emotional, hear | | | | this - People want what they cannot have. It does |
| records on the radio that tug at the heartstrings and | | | | matter if this is a job when they do not have one, |
| even perhaps avoiding certain places because they | | | | credit when they do not have any money or love and |
| remind you of him so much? | | | | attention when they lack it. This is the way you can |
| This is a difficult and extremely emotionally charged | | | | work to get your ex boyfriend back. People want |
| time for you. It is very difficult to not to end up doing | | | | what they cannot have. If you make it clear that he |
| the wrong thing that will alienate your boyfriend more. | | | | cannot have you any longer then his psychological |
| So how do you go about getting your ex boyfriend | | | | triggers will be activated. he will begin to want what he |
| back. I hope these tips will help you as they have | | | | cannot have, this is human nature. |
| helped me in the past. | | | | The first step to getting your ex boyfriend back. |
| Do Not Panic! | | | | Write a short note to him saying the following things - |
| The very first thing is do not panic. This can be very | | | | no more no less. |
| damaging and confirms their decision to break up. It will | | | | 1. Let him know you are OK with the breakup now. |
| just push your ex boyfriend further away. So what do | | | | 2. If you did something "bad" like have an affair, briefly |
| I mean by panic? here are some of the classic signs: | | | | apologise (but do not invent things here) |
| - Text message terrorism. Sending your ex boyfriend | | | | 3. Tell him something exciting has happened in your life |
| a barrage of texts trying to stay in contact | | | | and you would like to share it with him sometime. (Do |
| - Drunk Dialling. Phoning up your ex boyfriend when | | | | not tell him what - this creates his need for you) |
| drunk or in a highly emotional state professing you | | | | 4. Let him know you want to give him some time to |
| undying love and begging to come back. | | | | himself for now. |
| - Arguing about the breakup constantly. | | | | 5. Finally close by saying "Maybe at some point we |
| - Contacting their friends and family. Often to try and | | | | could be friends" |
| find out the "real" reason they have broken up from | | | | The second step is equally important |
| you because you cannot accept the reason they | | | | Really do begin something new and exciting in your life, |
| have given. | | | | something where you are going to interact with other |
| - "Accidental" meetings. These do not fool your ex | | | | people especially men. For instance a great one is to |
| boyfriend and they really do not fool you. | | | | start Salsa lessons - you will be dancing with new men |
| So what should you do? | | | | all the time, you will get attention, and when your ex |
| This is really tough because it goes against all that your | | | | boyfriend hears about it (make sure that he does!) it |
| heart (and maybe your friends are telling you). What | | | | will create jealousy and desire in him. |
| you should is often opposite you feelings. At this time | | | | In ending I would like to remind you, relationships do |
| you agree with the breakup and are cool and calm | | | | come to an end and sometimes it is the right thing to |
| with it (what ever you feel inside). If you have panicked | | | | happen. if you are trying to get your ex boyfriend back |
| then now is the time to stop, if you have not done any | | | | and having tried these tactics it does not work then it |
| of the text messaging, drunk dialling etc. then you are | | | | may be time to move on - which is where the salsa |
| way ahead of the game and in a powerful position. | | | | classes will come in handy! |
| Why does this work? | | | | Good luck to you. |
| There are a number of very powerful psychological | | | | |
