| iv> | | | | I can usually tell how socially adept a man is by finding |
| Learning how to have natural conversations with | | | | out how many times he leaves his home for social |
| women is critical to having dating success. The | | | | events, hobbies, and to meet new people. |
| article gets into key factors on how to make this | | | | Sometimes we live in our own private world of family |
| happen. | | | | and friends and put up this wall to meeting new people, |
| Ever see a beautiful woman from afar and having the | | | | which severely limits our opportunities to meet women, |
| desire to want to have a conversation with her and | | | | move up in our careers or grow our business. As |
| yet watched her walk out of your life forever? | | | | you can see, exercising your conversation muscles |
| There are many thoughts that go through our head | | | | goes beyond the dating world. |
| when we want to approach a woman. | | | | So how do you get started, especially if you're not |
| "What do I say?" | | | | used to talking to women you've never met before? |
| "Should I use a pickup line?" | | | | Well, the plan is simple, but it won't be easy. I used to |
| "Should I use the newest method that I read in a book | | | | be so shy that I couldn't even look a cute girl in the |
| or saw on a video?" | | | | eye, let alone try and start a conversation with her. |
| In today's information-packed, media-rich world there's | | | | So what I did was I began making more eye contact |
| a lot of information on the Internet on how to approach | | | | with women for about a week. Then the following |
| a woman and talk to her. Some of it is very useful | | | | week I simply began saying "Hi" or "Hey, what's up?" |
| and some of it is just bad advice. I think my friend | | | | or "Awesome weather today isn't it?" or some |
| Cindy said it best when she said, "Most men don't | | | | comment just to break the ice. |
| realize that women get hit on a lot by some real | | | | During those first couple of weeks I also researched |
| weirdos. Some of them try way too hard and others | | | | events that were going on in my city in cities nearby. |
| try to impress me with something materialistic. If a | | | | There's always some kind of food festival, fair, |
| woman is mature, emotionally balanced, and is available | | | | concert, play, etc. going on. I also made a list of |
| you don't need to do any of that. Just go talk to her, | | | | everything that I was interested in and new things that I |
| be honest, calm, relaxed, and have a normal, natural | | | | wanted to learn. I started taking salsa dance lessons |
| conversation with her." | | | | (which is where I met and dated a couple of women), I |
| A lot of men don't realize that when they attempt to | | | | joined Toastmasters, and a couple other activity |
| talk to a woman they are not being "natural". They | | | | groups. Now, I didn't join these things to meet and |
| fidget. They move their legs or their arms in unnatural | | | | pick up women. I only joined these things to force |
| ways. They move their bodies and their eyes very | | | | myself out of the house and to practice my |
| differently then if they were talking to a friend or | | | | conversation skills. |
| someone they know. The woman knows you're not | | | | If you want to have more natural conversations with |
| being yourself and you're not displaying any natural | | | | women, then you simply need to practice. You'll be |
| confidence. She immediately senses that you place | | | | amazed at how easy it is even after just a week or |
| higher social value to her and this causes her to lose | | | | two of doing it. You might see a group of women |
| attraction to you. So what do you do about this? | | | | and simply walk up to them and say "Hey you look like |
| First, you should realize that having a natural | | | | a fun group, I had to come over and see if I was |
| conversation with a woman is something that anyone | | | | right. My name is Rod. How do you all know one |
| can learn how to do. Even if you are not the most | | | | another?" |
| social person in the world you can learn how to do | | | | If you stay calm, relaxed, and talk to them like they are |
| this. Conversation, believe it or not, is a learned skill. | | | | human beings instead of goddesses, you'll do much |
| Some people have had more practice than others | | | | better in the long run. |
| which is why they seem to be so good at it. | | | | |
