| I thought I would share a recent embarrassing moment | | | | woman concentrating on making sure she is feeling |
| from one of my recent dating adventures. | | | | comfortable and having a good time rather than by |
| It is a lot of fun for me to write and coach others | | | | trying too hard to impress her with any of your skills, |
| about relationships. And it is very easy for me to sit in | | | | possessions, knowledge, or wisdom. |
| my ivory tower to ditch out advice to those in need. | | | | And don't take me wrong, being confident and skillful in |
| But I have recently realized that by simply writing about | | | | many areas of life is very attractive, but in the end it is |
| relationship and dating advice from a status of an | | | | your ability to care for her that matters even more. |
| expert somewhat removes my ability to share with | | | | And truth to be told, I probably got a little too carried |
| you how I personally try to practice what I preach. | | | | away on the salsa dance floor on our second date |
| So this time rather than writing another article with | | | | anyway, so this was for good balance:). |
| advice, I am going for the first time try to take you with | | | | So there we were skating slowly, holding hands, telling |
| me to experience how I personally try to implement | | | | stories and laughing (I was scoring some more points). |
| some of the things that I advice in my own life. | | | | Everything was going perfect. We were enjoying the |
| Besides you will see the reality that a date with a | | | | moment and our time together. |
| dating coach doesn't always go perfectly either:). | | | | I think by now we had been skating so slow for so |
| So, with my date's permission, here I go. | | | | long that I had forgotten that there even were any kind |
| We met through Our first two dates at this point had | | | | of brakes in the front of my skates. And I guess some |
| gone great. On our first date we met for a cup of | | | | testosterone had been building up in my body, because |
| coffee and ended it with a short walk together for | | | | all I started thinking about was that I wanted to do |
| some ice cream. The second time we met we went | | | | some faster ice-skating and that I wanted to impress |
| to do some salsa dancing, partly so I could try to | | | | her. |
| impress her with my smooth footwork:) (By the way | | | | I took a couple of strong strides and got off to a |
| salsa dancing is a great idea for a date whether you | | | | pretty good speed, so I decided to push forth a little |
| have fancy footwork or not, and if you live in the bay | | | | more. This time I really pushed my skates to the ice |
| area, come check out some of the salsa dance | | | | hard and as soon as I did I felt a big jerk. I realized |
| lessons and events that I personally host). | | | | what had happened. I had pressed the break to the ice |
| So this was our third date. After consulting one of my | | | | and off I went flying my hands forward like a |
| good friends for some ideas for a date:). I decided I | | | | superman only to fell on my face. |
| would take her to ice-skating. So we met in the city of | | | | So there I was lying on the ice hurt while she and the |
| San Francisco and hopped on to BART, which took us | | | | supervisor of the skating ring came to check if I was |
| right beside the ice skating ring in Oakland. | | | | ok:). I was embarrassed. |
| So far so good:). | | | | Assuring my date that I was fine (really I was not, my |
| We got to the skating ring and rented our skates. I | | | | leg that landed first was hurting like crazy:)), we went |
| helped her get her skates on (extra point for me:) ) | | | | on to do some more skating back to slower speeds:). |
| and we were now ready for some ice time. But as | | | | But the moral of the story is this. |
| soon as I stepped on the ice, I realized something was | | | | Guys you don't necessarily have to impress a woman |
| seriously wrong. | | | | on a date by appearing to be perfectly smooth and |
| Being from Finland I know how to ice skate, or so I | | | | confident in your manners and actions. By being able |
| thought. But as soon as I tried to take off a little faster, | | | | to be humble and laugh at yourself when you make |
| my skates stopped and my body jerked forward. | | | | mess-ups and mistakes allows her to also feel even |
| What I realized was that all of the skates were unisex, | | | | more comfortable around you. |
| meaning that on the front they had the breaks that | | | | Ultimately what is the most attractive is to learn to be |
| usually are only on women's skates. I had never | | | | your authentic self. So if you are scared to go out and |
| skated with the brakes on the front. | | | | to plan a date because you think you might make a |
| Partly, I think it was just God's way of slowing me | | | | fool out of yourself, remember that by concentrating |
| down so I could impress her more by concentrate on | | | | more on making sure she is having a good time you |
| making sure she was feeling comfortable rather than | | | | will relieve yourself from the pressure of trying to |
| me trying to impress her with my skating skills. | | | | somehow impress her. And by doing this she will |
| This actually brings me to my dating tip number one for | | | | probably be even more impressed with you as a result |
| guys. | | | | anyway. |
| You will always score much more points with a | | | | I wish you much success in your dating and love life! |
